So what do you want?

Do you get tired of knowing you want something but never getting it? For example getting to that weight or dress size, saying you'll do all that is needed to get there for example go to the gym, join a bootcamp, go jogging, the list goes on.

Well don't worry you're not the only one I know from experience a lot of people find it hard. I know some even stop telling friends and family they keep it secret, then they won't be held accountable in any way. For this article I'm going to use the example of wanting to be a size 10 but it can be anything.

The first step is to relax! Yes relax stop beating yourself up about it, just sit calmly for ten minutes and really think - what do you want?

What's important to you in being a size 10?

What does it look like? For example you say I want to be a size 10 so tell me what does size 10 look like to you?

Now really picture yourself a size 10, often I'm told "it's when I'll be able to wear ....." Great well see yourself in that, get a real feel for how size 10 looks and now how it feels. So imagine putting on that dress, bikini or whatever it is.

If you don't have a piece of clothing in mind - get one, something you would really love to wear.

Imagine where you'll be putting this lovely item of clothing on - in the shop changing room or your bedroom?

Now imagine how good you'll feel wearing such a gorgeous dress, really get into it. The unconscious doesn't distinguish between 'real' or a vividly imagined scenario so it is very powerful.

What I'm really asking you to do is develop and refine a goal but a very special goal, one that is unique to you, one that you can really see and feel. You will feel anticipation and excitement when you describe this goal to a good friend, loved one, your life coach or personal trainer.

This is the first step on your action plan to getting what you want, to being successful your way!

Yes of course physical exercise and diet would be in your action plan getting you to a size 10. However the very first step and often the one that is skimmed over, not fully explored or just missed out is about you really defining and being crystal clear about what YOU want - it's your goal.

If you have any questions about this article or would like to discuss your particular circumstance please feel free to get in touch.